Dear Stressed-Out Mom,

I know that you love your kids, but that sometimes that feels like the only thing you know for sure.

I know that you're exhausted and overwhelmed. I know that you are drowning in the day-in day-out drudgery of parenting.

I know that you don't have enough support and you feel like it's all on you.

I know that you worry about how it's all going to turn out.

And I know that you second guess yourself all the time.

Here's what I want you to know:

  • You are amazing.
  • You are doing an incredible job at everything.
  • I hear you, I see you, and what you are doing is important and valuable.
  • You are making a positive contribution to the world.
  • And it's ok. Everything you are feeling is ok.
  • Motherhood is hard.

Here is what has helped me:

Ask for what you need.
Let other people help you.
Don't devalue yourself.
Set boundaries.
Take care of yourself.

Trust your own voice. Know that you are doing exactly what you need to be doing right now. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Move your body. Take breaks. Breathe.

Feel your feelings - know that they are not up for debate but also that just because you feel something doesn't mean it's true.

Express your feelings - not to manipulate or control or convince, but just so those around you are aware.

Love yourself.

And know that you are loved.